How is your diary looking for the forthcoming months? I’m assuming very busy – at least for the month of December. If you were conducting an objective review of said diary, how many appointments or events involve your favourite people or the things that you love?
How much time is scheduled to help you achieve one of those goals/dreams you’ve considered. I’m guessing if you are like me, you’ll have plenty of ‘because I really ought to’s and not so much of the things that really matter to you.
One thing a lot of us really neglect to do is schedule in downtime. We all need downtime, time at home with no plans so that we can just ‘be’. It’s just as important to have free time scheduled in to your diary to allow you moments of spontaneity, as those moments ensure that you spend time living in the moment, not the past or the future, but the here and now. The present space that you occupy is all that truly matters at a single point in time. This afternoon was meant to be a quiet one at home with my family, but we ended up constructing a huge stage set for my daughter – not quite what I had in mind but still everyone seemed to enjoy doing their tasks and being forced to think outside of the box.
It’s time to practice some self-preservation
1. Cancel the things that do not fall into one of the following categories:
- will help you achieve your life goals,
- in your list of love-to-do’s
- involve those key people in your life.
2. Review crazy, hectic weekends and scrub out something to give you a chance to re-group at home and also the flexibility to be spontaneous.
Leave the guilt behind
I always used to feel guilty if I’d cleared the Sunday following a hectic week and a friend then asked if we could catch up and I said I was busy, as deep down it felt like lying, but actually if I don’t give myself a chance to rest and reflect, how can I give or receive love to my fullest ability?
Take back control
It’s time to take back control of your diary, ensure that you are managing it rather than it managing you. Try and spend 10 minutes every week sorting out your diary. Sunday evening/Monday mornings are good for this, and if necessary, actually schedule your diary cull into your own diary!